HAVING THE CENTRAL VOICE IN A DISCUSSION

Many are times In the middle of a discussion we want to be the central voice ad reason,we want to dominate and have the sat say,we always want to prove our point and get the rest of the people in discussion admit to what we say and all that we believe in.it always happens that the very grounds we argue upon remains the same all through the discussion even without us knowing it.using the same words,very similar examples and appealing to the very individuals we started with and at times losing as time goes,we even find ourselves boring to our very own ears.

  Feeling the inability within us to bring out exhaustively our minds to making others believe in the very grounds we argue on is not because we do not have the facts or information but because it is on very rare occasion if any that we put our entire minds on a particular subject of discussion.There are issues we lose even from our own ideologies deep inside even before it comes out.

   #  Never think of what to say next while the other person is speaking.

In a discussion we always focus on what next to say after the other person is done talking to keep us ahead of them,in our mind we make it seem like a battle in which we must win which is never the case at all.for instance after we have given forth our point of argument we hurriedly think of what to say next to say to put the other person on the receiving end.

  #  Never aim at having the last word.

 The perception of 'He that laughs last.....' Should not be a consideration in a discussion.The key objective should be to gather all other than what you may have thought yourself to know on the subject.

  #  Try putting your thought on the other side.

 Having information from a particular standpoint makes you more of a bore in a discussion as it may have you perceived to argue just for the sake of it.seeing things from more than one angle exposes you to much knowledge than you may have initially thought,you get to know the weaknesses of both sides and the strength too.

  #  Forget about yourself and image amid discussion. 

 In a discussion we become like a character in a play,in this case there is never anything to be worried about as you come out yourself latter with nothing  to lose but grounds to defend.

  #  Don't always be rigid to the reality.

  The reality is the most significant gap and the final hurdle that bridges the problem with the resolution.In a discussion or a healthy understanding between two sides or aspects of a certain subject one should not go beyond the actual human realm of things as we all want to have if not the tangible then something that we can attribute to.

  In a discussion or a healthy understanding between two sides or aspects of a certain subject,what counts is what we come out with about our point of argument that you didn't know.all that makes all the points seem just right and ones that can't be dismissed.