How to overcome 'your' unreal personality

OVERCOMING A FAKE IDENTITY

Given that as we all grow up we learn from those around us and would want to be like them or do what would make us be associated with them,in other words we want to build their character in us. Individually we are endowed differently in the ay we react to negative perceptions of us,the happy times in our lives and all that is easily read from the outside I the context of what we give out.

    Be it as employees,employers,students and all the other awesome people around us,we always have those people we look at and see everything to do with perfection.one thing we realise years after is that we have locked our real person within us,we want to make people like us and so we go beyond the realistic,we want people to see the 'other popular' us,the character that people loves and want to please everyone even when that is the least they want from us,we are focused on telling people what they want to hear,what they know and expect to hear from us and so we lock our real self within us because we think speaking our mind may spoil our friendship or keep us away from these people.

   In having to change from what people know of us to who we really are and the true person in us,it may not be as easy as it may seem,you need to understand that there are setbacks which does not mean its impossible,there are thing you need to take to account and it will be more like a switch.

1.Understand that you are living in a character that may have grown to a

   Personality which is not of the real you but like an adopted one which  

    Can not be totally erased but may be managed with time.

2.Know that although you have made a decision to be your real self it is 

   One thing to decide and yet another to actually overcome it.

3.There may be time when you will find yourself almost build to the 

    Character you are have been known for since it may be assumed that 

   Since you are into a new character it may be a faked one.

4.Be realistic in drawing your real identity for it might be just another 

   Character you are tempted to pick up thinking its who you are.

5.Always try associating yourself with what gives you fulfillment other than     

   what people like for that would depict the real you. 

6.Try letting lose of the things that you do to please other people and 

   Focus on what defines you.