Every person has their lives to live and decisions to take,some of which take. Them miles away from their actual objective they may have been aiming for,while there are those that would move you inches loser to your destination,only proving that nothing is actually impossible.These realities are what we have to live with and admit that just as we are the reason for our high flying career at times,we are also responsible for the numerous failures that have taken us back to the drawing board.
The manner in which one conducts their daily lives literally exposes what is in the inside;the unseen part of them.Respect should be earned and that is one reality very few people admits to.There are a number of times other people have been led to believe that by just having someone work under you then they are obligated to respect you,when you are of a status in society higher than another then they are bound to respect you,when you are an adult then those "lesser" than you have no choice but to give it up for you.Well if any of the above is what respect is about then i guess you've got to think again and come out clear.
There are characters that each of us has that makes us different but to the positive than the negative that puts us ahead and makes others want to respect you even when you thought lesser yourself.Respect does not come with the tittle but by the manner in which we stand to outdo,overpower and overcome the challenges that come with the responsibilities,by this anyone guessing that that respect has to involve responsibilities is certainly right.without the responsibilities then what have we to show for doing uniquely what others consider the obvious.
Among some of the things that one can not be forced to do as most of them have to be from deep within are;
1. Respect
2. Smile
3. Show gratitude
4.To love
The reason why they are considered so is because they have to come from deep within an individual before we see as what is subconsciously expressed on the outside is the very overflow of what is deep inside.with that even codependent a have a very hard time actualizing it.As to whether respect has to be commanded or earned it all begins with where the society has placed you or where you have gotten yourself to have the society recognize you from.
To get the clear picture of things lets consider a situation; A father who is always there for his children and aiming at making them realize who they are supposed to be,He is there for them when they want him to,he gives them the positivity of life as it should and to sum it up he always has the father figure in the picture and therefore very little about him is him,he does all that would nurture his children to responsibility.The second father wants his children to grow responsibly and therefore wants them to learn from the decisions they themselves take,he would want his children be who he never got to be but does very little to be the model figure for them to look up to.
Respect at times is out of fear either because of what might happen if we do not live up to what we are expected to or because we misinterpret the two and even interchange them.In the first parent case,the children have a father who they look up to and this builds the respect which even without reminding them of who one is they automatically see you deserving respect,in the second case the children live in an environment where so much is expected of them without the guideline to how right it can be done,they do not know when they have done it right or wrong as very little connects the missing gap between them,in such a case respect is not necessarily what it is but then fear.
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