Failure is one monster we never want associated with what we do at all levels,the monster we all wish we could see and run way from as far as we could,it's the one unwelcomed guest we can never assume.most of the times we want all that we come to contact with turn to gold with very little effort,(it's us after all and we can never lose) its an expectation that all that comes our way move smoothly and soft enough to work itself out.
Enough of the obvious lets look at the other 'unexpected' reality.some assume that expecting the possibilities of the negative is bad luck or bad omen or something,maybe it's something but certainly not a bad omen or bad luck.
In gauging the reality of an aim,goal or objective there are five very important questions that weighs the path and the realistic things we don't consider.
1. Will it work just fine and give me the results that I want?
2. Am I really prepared for this or is it anxiety?
3. Does getting there mean the destination?
4. Would my not getting it mean I am a failure?
5. Is it about what I believe in or what might put me down?
Once we have all these questions answered from deep within ourselves the be rest assured that the task would be way less than what it may have seemed at the beginning.
# Will it work just fine and give me the result that I want?
In an onset of anything we all expect it smooth to the end,no hurdles,no tests, no weakness to overcome and all that.At times what we get may not necessarily be what we expected but then it opens us up to what we may not have known about the entire process.It is killing two birds with one stone and walking all the ways smiley.
# Am I really prepared for this or is it just anxiety?
Preparedness entails a whole lot more than just what you need to get through whatever it is you want done.The very essential is our ability to handle all that may come with whatever we didn't expect.The anxiety to see the outcome may overpower our drive and have things hastened which in turns changes all the dynamics of what we intended for at the start.Would we still rise up and continue until we get to the destination or is the expectation of the obvious that keeps us going?
# Does achieving mean the destination?
Once we have everything done our way then,had our objectives achieved and gotten to where we never thought ourselves being the that's it,we have made it after all right?,it is a mentality that can inhibit our ability to grow beyond our normal confines,all the steps to getting to the main objective makes one realise what hidden power within them they had but couldn't explore or better still never let out as very few avenues would prompt such.
# Would my not-getting-it mean I am a failure?
The spirit to getting something done and done in the right manner is way builds us from within,it's one thing we cannot point out but feel it.it builds our confidence all the way.Failure or success are not determined by the amount of time it takes to have it done but by the spirit to always keep going on and on and on.
# Is about what I believe in or what might put me down?
As much as there are weaknesses within us it shouldn't be the reason not take the risks that exposes us to the strength we have compared to the weakness,the reason why anyone pours out their heart,time and resources on anything is not only the passion for it but because they believe in it,it becomes part of them, although as awkward as it may seem to some,we shouldn't dismiss anything that might make us susceptible to the negative outcome.
It is good and much better to forge ahead but without permanently understanding and expecting the hurdles then it makes us weaker than we may have thought we were.
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