WHAT PEOPLE THINK?!!!

"I was thinking of a small party after my official marriage at the office of the attorney but everyone is insisting that i go for a big church wedding,my problem is not the wedding but you know if i don't people will think am refusing because of the finances but that is not the case.do you think am doing the right thing?". I listened to a friend as he seemed totally out of options,it's something that almost everyone is always dealing with all the time.
  A decision is supposed to be the ultimate of all the thinking and perception of any particular subject depending on the issue at hand,what any other person thinks is just what they would have done if that was what they had to deal with but given that it's you then you've got to be real and honest to yourself.One has to be ready to personally take the responsibility and gobble down the resultant of any of their decisions.
  One has to draw the line between what is about them-self and the rest.in this case the rest is 'the people'.what another person thinks about your issue is their business not yours. Einstein said "If you've never made a mistake then you have never tried on anything new",one has to make mistakes in some time of their life to be able to clearly look back at and learn from them.You are not always going to be making consultations the rest of your life seeking other people's opinions.
   Whatever one decides you take ( may be from the variety of the advice everyone shares whether positive or negative ) has to thoroughly thought about by you and not an indirect decision of a friend to you.

CHANGING THE LANE.

The future is being as infinite as a boomerang should at all levels be well defined as  unless one actually defines his life in his own words then he doesn't exist,by this i mean if ones life,actions,speech and anything that is associated with him can not be directly connected to him then there is more to be done.Every one has had something that makes them who they are,be it by just dreaming it or talking about it certain persons have made great strides that would take a whole generation to reach that particular level for the latter would want to have themselves defined by another ones creation.  So you want to be a re-known person in your particular current  field of pursuit,you want to earn respect for being above all levels to have ever been set by anyone who has was before you?,you want anything you touch turn to gold?,Bruce Lee once said, "Do not pray for an easy life,pray for the strength to endure a difficult one",in his great words one would console themself that after all life is not easy.
  So you want to be a re-known person in your particular current  field of pursuit,you want to earn respect for being above all levels to have ever been set by anyone who has was before you?,you want anything you touch turn to gold?,Bruce Lee once said, "Do not pray for an easy life,pray for the strength to endure a difficult one",in his great words one would console themself that after all life is not easy.Life in itself is very challenging and unless you become yourself in defining and overcoming the challenges, life may as well remain difficult,hard and all the words one can use to define it depending on how it is going for them.
   The basis one person talks of as life being hard at one corner is the very one that another uses to say how they have walked through the murky waters to be where they are,it's time to face it and put everything as should,no one wakes up to harvest,no one wakes up to wipe away those tears of joy and be all happy without having been through the other side feeling the heat and loss,a persons no existence does not necessarily mean that they are not there but that there is nothing that can be pointed at and have these person directly linked to it as having been the original idea and original in the sense that it was not a duplication of another existing one.

TRY AND BE ORIGINAL.

"Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried something new"the words of the greatest man of the time Albert Einstein,trying something new would mean exposing yourself to the risk for which you do not know the outcome,whether good or positive in other words,bad or the negative,it would then be up to you to find out.seeking to know from those who have surpassed all odds and stood out of the crowd,remained strong is what everyone would want to know before getting to 'unknown' .  So many times its about the all avenues be it relationships,business and all other avenues in life.In all these one needs to be well informed before they can make that bold step.Experience being the best teacher they say before one can decide there needs to be both physically and psychology prepared before they can be blindly over inspired to hurriedly decide before considering all other factors.It is good receive the all positive but then there are times one needs to draw the boundaries between advising and being all friendly in guidance to where one is meant o go.It is good to get a way of fixing an issue from another perspective as this helps us to know that we are not the only ones in such problems or issues but the act that something worked for someone would not guarantee you the same would it?.
   Admitted that there are those that set as examples in our lives and we just walk in their footsteps and for sure there can never be a doubt everything works all miracles.There are times one also needs to risk it big and try their way as there can never be anything better than understanding your own way  around something,having tried out something and failed would not make you less of an achiever would it?,it gives you a clue as to what would not work properly,implementing another persons method in your idea may be the cause of its failure to some extend.What everyone needs to know is that the hidden power of the mind can do wonders if fully utilized.
 It is on very rare ( if any ) that a person considers their own true to it and remains on it.most are always about what has been tried and seen fit or proved the best,much of what the society is currently into is not actually new in its place but most are a duplication of what we have continually been having,only that it comes covered in flowers and all rossy.

BEING THE TALENT SCHOOLS.

     Education over time has changed and is no longer viewed as used to some ten to  twenty years back,whether by necessity or relevance that is for the modern definition of a well learned or educated a person is,what the society places as key drives the entire system and gets everyone getting along and dancing to the music,with time the initial culture seems to be changing from the norm of looking at the bigger picture all for the sake of it but then all is because there is a need consider the worthy of the outcome.
    There is the re-identification of the ability within these young individuals before taking them to where we assume to be there ultimate destination (for their own good that is ).Talent schools have inculcated the relevant culture that should be consideration of any society,bit by bit the few that go through the system appreciate its value and for sure the trend seem to be going in its favour,being the very portrayal of the positive impact its making it gives the rest of the world more than enough reasons to consider it.

  positive and relevant as it may sound,there still are some facts to put into consideration to ensure that the waters go through the right gutters so that what is collected is the very that was expected.Development stages differ from child to another when it comes to identifying what they can be associated with some other times later in their life.The most probable positive impact to expect is that within the out-of-book environment there are other prospects to look at and presents the positive minded individual who doesn't have to  always look at life as the victim but as one who understands the value of the ability within them and its impact on the very ones they come across.

  

TAKING RESPONSIBILITY.

Sometimes we feel sidelined by the society or the environment we have exposed ourselves to,one feels no even confident in their own skin.There are those that we feel very uncomfortable around,people who really either make our lives more hectic than it may have been before they walked right in or complicate almost everything to leave us finding where to take the blame.They negatively impact our lives by the kind of people they get us involved with,the decisions they for in us and the atmosphere they create to push entirely the right people they found in our lives away.

    In other scenarios ones perspective of the larger picture is never welcomed or rather rarely seem to trigger change to the effect of the idea one may have given or the entire process made to portray you as the odd or weird of all.Some of this may be due to extreme  push for others to accept the advice we put out there forgetting that it is just a mere advice which they can chose to take up or literally discard if they want to.

  There are varied individualities and among them are;those that would personalize challenges and take up the task to ensuring the positive outcome is not an option but an automatic result,those that always remain in the field no matter the outcome,they are the resilient figures all around us,there are then those that be very inspirational,ones that can build castles within a mind that has given up,they are positive about everything but can never get down to realizing the words to actualize and make the castles come to life.

  All these 'characters' would either pull different persons closer to you or push them away.Life being as universal as it is,the way everyone handles it tells the outer world what is in each one,what they think and all that can not be said of anyone in a first time encounter.

  

IS PLAN B NECESSARY?.

 Vital as it has always in the execution of any task,planning has to always be neat and well organised as its the very portrayal of what to expect when it gets down going to put the papers in the sand and bring out fantasy from what only we can see to the outside world and share it with everybody to prove that we not only dream but dream real and big,it is good to have things going all smooth and as planned as it boosts ones ego and makes you feel great about how accurate it can all comes out when we take up the tools.

  It is good and so very good for that matter to have the best that you can ever come up with so the the 'unexpected' negative comes haunting you in the end,just incase it doesn't work out as you may have wanted it to.A fall-back or get-back-to plan is one unescapable idea one has to always deal with.whenever there arises an inconvenience then one would consider the alternative,being the nature of the human mind to always expect smooth riding,the opposite is always correct.It may seem as a good way to handle things but one should understand that the 'alternative' or 'plan b' becomes like the other way of doing whatever you may have wanted,it is good but then comes back to be more of a duplicate rather than the original idea that you may have wanted.

   Albert Einstein says " a person who has never made a mistake has never tried something new".The wording in itself from Einstein literally gives a new definition to mistakes,the 'other plan' mentality makes one look at the easier way out to have things work faster.the easier way limits ones thinking to bringing the reality out of the persons everyone is defined as. Working with a plan b in mind is infact  good but then it diverts ones attention and concentration "what else would work if this doesn't ?".

A plan b entirely means you are not a hundred percent sure of the original idea,it says the focus is swayed from within and so does it express itself.

BRIDGING THE GAP.

Having cute kids and living happily ever after is always the dream of any couple on this planet,parenting is so very interesting mostly in the early childhood and all the way if its proper parenting at that.Children at four    Onwards are one very curious human beings that it becomes so fun to be with.In the parenting process there comes a time when one has to get some questions answered and answered correctly else the impact may be gravous for to bear in the long run.

 # How many times have you had the radio channel changed all because the subject of discussion is not one you would want to listen to with your children around?.

 # How many times have you been forced to sent your children to go and play,go and sleep of change the tv channel because what it was airing was not something you considered fit for them?

 It is high time we became realistic and faced the bull by the horns,teenage is one stage in life that if care is not taken the information exposed to these young individual may move them to levels where they have to satisfy their curiosity and for sure the  repacution  may not be something we would bear.

 It is high time either as the parent,guardian,the elder sibling or even as the concerned individuals that we are took time and had these young innocent minds understand sexuality for what it really is,the reason why we see what we end up with is because,at the age that they demand the answers to these pertinent questions we were never there for them to properly answer,we make them perceive it as a subject that should not and can never be discussed with adults or parents so to say,in the end they go out in quest for them and what they get  we blame them for it.

  I have come across parents who talk of instances when they found porn content on their children's phone,found such magazines in hidden in their rooms once they've gone back to school.children find it easier to discuss these topics with their peers and people who they are not directly related to some of whom end up giving them misguided information.Whatever these individuals find themselves in is not for the poor decisions they take but because they are vulnerable basing on the issue at hand.

 Having known all that is to be known then comes the question,how do we introduce them to such sensitive information without having them to misinterpret what we tell them? or have them get it all in the wrong way other than what we may have intended fit for them to?.

 First admit that they are bound to know whether from you or elsewhere but getting it from you would be better as another avenue will misguide their innocence,it would be significant if it was a female addressing a girl and the male addressing the boy child this is to avoid getting them to shy off for fear of you not fully understanding them. 

 Always give them an atmosphere of freedom to have them feel free to discuss their deeper individuality with so as it becomes clear to solve an issue you are well informed about.given that you are nurturing them through the reality of what is out there,caution needs to be taken to avoid giving them or telling them more than what they ought to know otherwise it may compromise the need for the entire information.

RESPECT THAT IS WORTH EARNING.

Every person has their lives to live and decisions to take,some of which take. Them miles away from their actual objective they may have been aiming for,while there are those that would move you inches loser to your destination,only proving that nothing is actually impossible.These realities are what we have to live with and admit that just as we are the reason for our high flying career at times,we are also responsible for the numerous failures that have taken us back to the drawing board.

  The manner in which one conducts their daily lives literally exposes what is in the inside;the unseen part of them.Respect should be earned and that is one reality very few people admits to.There are a number of times other people have been led to believe that by just having someone work under you then they are obligated to respect you,when you are of a status in society higher than another then they are bound to respect you,when you are an adult then those "lesser" than you have no choice but to give it up for you.Well if any of the above is what respect is about then i guess you've got to think again and come out clear.

  There are characters that each of us has that makes us different but to the positive than the negative that puts us ahead and makes others want to respect you even when you thought lesser yourself.Respect does not come with the tittle but by the manner in which we stand to outdo,overpower and overcome the challenges that come with the responsibilities,by this anyone guessing that that respect has to involve responsibilities is certainly right.without the responsibilities then what have we to show for doing uniquely what others consider the obvious.

  Among some of the things that one can not be forced to do as most of them have to be from deep within are;

                        1. Respect

                        2. Smile

                        3. Show gratitude 

                        4.To love 

The reason why they are considered so is because they have to come from deep within an individual before we see as what is subconsciously expressed on the outside is the very overflow of what is deep inside.with that even codependent a have a very hard time actualizing it.As to whether respect has to be commanded or earned it all begins with where the society has placed you or where you have gotten yourself to have the society recognize you from. 

  To get the clear picture of things lets consider a situation; A father who is always there for his children and aiming at making them realize who they are supposed to be,He is there for them when they want him to,he gives them the positivity of life as it should and to sum it up he always has the father figure in the picture and therefore very little about him is him,he does all that would nurture his children to responsibility.The second father wants his children to grow responsibly and therefore wants them to learn from the decisions they themselves take,he would want his children be who he never got to be but does very little to be the model figure for them to look up to.

  Respect at times is out of fear either because of what might happen if we do not live up to what we are expected to or because we misinterpret the two and  even interchange them.In the first parent case,the children have a father who they look up to and this builds the respect which even without reminding them of who one is they automatically see you deserving respect,in the second case the children live in an environment where so much is expected of them without the guideline to how right it can be done,they do not know when they have done it right or wrong as very little connects the missing gap between them,in such a case respect is not necessarily what it is but then fear.

DEFINING TRUST.

Trust depending on whatever dictionary one is using may be defined in way more than the number of times it is used,many are times trust loses its definition as should as many would use it to fit words to a particular context or fit themselves in an avenue where there is a personal interest.

 There are two instances that can be used to completely contrast the interpretation of trust as many have used.first, one needs to understand that in trying to understand if someone trusts you or not you can not tell  from their interaction with you or better still you can not get them to bring out their perception of you,people draw their boundary lines right from the very first interaction,this really tells on who one is,what they expose their minds  to mostly and what defines them.

  Its the nature of the human mind to have almost everything looked at in two ways,it's either the good side outweighing the bad or the positive side which we switch our minds to believing becomes more concrete and proves right what we consider best.

  There are individuals who  we would confide in without fear,those that we pour out our heart to and feel relieved with the burden lifted off our shoulders.In such a case trust is no question at all,The confidence that comes with feeling that these individuals own a part of us that they understand more than any other person would,really earns them trust beyond our own understanding.We would all admit that there are people in our lives who once we meet it takes very little time and we feel like it has been more than years,those who we naturally connect to and they then fill the gap that very few ( if any) can fill.Then there are those who we can spend more than years,those that have been in our lives for as long as we can remember but then they remain just like any other person,their presence or absence all seems the same.

 Then there is yet something else we confuse for trust and its confidence and ability.There are times people show potential and the ability to fully execute what seems a little above the obvious.Trust is more of the unseen definition of  what is inside than the obvious consideration of mankind as the outer being what defines one.

COMNG OUT OF YOUR CONFINES.

# How many times have you not executed on a certain decision even when everyone else expected you to at times just because you don't thing it's the right thing to do?

 Preparation in virtually in everything has to begin with the mind before it is physically executed,as humans we look at the outside soft spots where it is easy to have our way with very little challenges.There are times we get so used to the failing that it becomes a norm and can't take things to the risky but benefiting side.

 Most of the decisions most people later  take in life are due to;

       1. From a personal experience of a particular act earlier.

       2. The upbringing which limits them to specific surrounding.

       3. The fear of the unknown.

       4. The obvious as everyone else is.

       5. The new-world-order mentality.

   Given that the decisions each one takes in life latter affect or always has an impact whether positive or the negative,very little of the decisions should be because someone else tried and it worked for them or because it is you to decide after all.It i should be because its the best thing to do.

 Coming out of your confine means embracing the weakness in you and going to an extra mile of bettering our strength,The weakness in you doesn't expose you to the challenges but rather gets you to really know  yourself and it becomes easy to know yourself from deep within.It help you to curb your own fears and use then to your own advantage.

  Experience being the best teacher one should also understand that there is always the first time for everything and this might just be one of such.Ones upbringing may have contributed to what they become latter in life but then that should not be a reason for one not to go out and explore what the world can give.It is said that what you do not know is greater than you,one may be evading what is best for them that they dint know.Being unique is what makes people go an extra mile and stand out.

BEFORE THE CONFIDENCE

# Was times have you had something done that got everyone marvel that you took it as one moment that you wish would define your entire life,one that you would replay again and again if you could?

# Was there yet another time when you did something and felt that you had given it your all only to latter get someone tell  you how black the entire event painted you?,how you had looked like a ten year old confused.

    These are times in life that one has to go through to actually know who they really are,they are parts of the puzzle that we can never leave out.Giving out information is one day to day acts that has to always happen,how correct the information is,how sure you are about the information and how crucial the information is are some of the things that determine how one gives/presents the information.Its good to have someone to look up to but then one has to first of all nurture that positivity of who they are within them.

  Acceptance of who one is deep inside them helps to rebuild the weak spirit and confidence comes as it is,just as in the case of the body when hurt or incase of a bruise the defense mechanism even without using the external medicine it has the ability to heal as long as the spot is identified.The body in this case is not very different from the sociology of human psychology in an aspect of the society.There are very few people if asked would consider themselves role model or better still a star to their own self.Before anyone else can see the value in you then you have to see it out first.

The value in the words of an individual always try bringing the,selves out even when one doesn't feel the need to.There are times you would put yourself to where people would see the value of what you have and appreciate it,that is bringing it out before its time and may be misunderstood for pride,the aspect of confidence we are referring  to is one in which what's is in you comes out on its own.These two statements may seem similar but are way too far from one another.In the first case it's like having new underpants where only you know that and wherever you go you feel new and no other person can tell but the expression is always out speaking for itself that there is certainly something unusual.

 The second case where one may not have the confidence but they seem  to console themselves in the unknown.It can be related to trying to do something not because you think it is right or in your conscious but because you want to be far different and to an extension draw attention,this may turn out and have things to the opposite direction.

Sometimes it begins with fear which may have been an escalation from; the nature of their upbringing,the environment one was bred in or better still could be naturally inborn.

 We have the information but are unsure about it,we don't consider it full enough or better still misinformation could be the case.unless the push to bring out that which you have brings itself out naturally then confidence may be far from the subject.

THE QUESTIONS WE NEVER GET TO ANSWER.

Failure is one monster we never want associated with what we do at all levels,the monster we all wish we could see and run way from as far as we could,it's the one unwelcomed guest we can never assume.most of the times we want all that we come to contact with turn to gold with very little effort,(it's us after all and we can never lose) its an expectation that all that comes our way move smoothly and soft enough to work itself out.

Enough of the obvious lets look at the other 'unexpected' reality.some assume that expecting the possibilities of the negative is bad luck or bad omen or something,maybe it's something but certainly not a bad omen or bad luck.

In gauging the reality of an aim,goal or objective there are five very important questions that weighs the path and the realistic things we don't consider.

  1. Will it work just fine and give me the results that I want?

  2. Am I really prepared for this or is it anxiety?

  3. Does getting there mean the destination?

  4. Would my not getting it mean I am a failure?

  5. Is it about what I believe in or what might put me down?

   Once we have all these questions answered from deep within ourselves the be rest assured that the task would be way less than what it may have seemed at the beginning.

  # Will it work just fine and give me the result that I want?

 In an onset of anything we all expect it smooth to the end,no hurdles,no tests, no weakness to overcome and all that.At times what we get may not necessarily be what we expected but then it opens us up to what we may not have known about the entire process.It is killing two birds with one stone and walking all the ways smiley.

  # Am I really prepared for this or is it just anxiety?

  Preparedness entails a whole lot more than just what you need to get through whatever it is you want done.The very essential is our ability to handle all that may come with whatever we didn't expect.The anxiety to see the outcome may overpower our drive and have things hastened which in turns changes all the dynamics of what we intended for at the start.Would we still rise up and continue until we get to the destination or is the expectation of the obvious that keeps us going?

  # Does achieving mean the destination?

  Once we have everything done our way then,had our objectives achieved and gotten to where we never thought ourselves being the that's it,we have made it after all right?,it is a mentality that can inhibit our ability to grow beyond our normal confines,all the steps to getting to the main objective makes one realise what hidden power within them they had but couldn't  explore or better still never let out as very few avenues would prompt such.

  # Would my not-getting-it mean I am a failure?

  The spirit to getting something done and done in the right manner is way builds us from within,it's one thing we cannot point out but feel it.it builds our confidence all the way.Failure  or success are not determined by the amount of time it takes to have it done but by the spirit to always keep going on and on and on.

  # Is about what I believe in or what might put me down?

 As much as there are weaknesses within us it shouldn't be the reason not take the risks that exposes us to the strength we have compared to the weakness,the reason why anyone pours out their heart,time and resources on anything is not only the passion for it but because they believe in it,it becomes part of them, although as awkward as it may seem to some,we shouldn't dismiss anything that might make us susceptible to the negative outcome.

 It is good and much better to forge ahead but without permanently understanding and expecting the hurdles then it makes us weaker than we may have thought we were.

  

    

HAVING THE CENTRAL VOICE IN A DISCUSSION

Many are times In the middle of a discussion we want to be the central voice ad reason,we want to dominate and have the sat say,we always want to prove our point and get the rest of the people in discussion admit to what we say and all that we believe in.it always happens that the very grounds we argue upon remains the same all through the discussion even without us knowing it.using the same words,very similar examples and appealing to the very individuals we started with and at times losing as time goes,we even find ourselves boring to our very own ears.

  Feeling the inability within us to bring out exhaustively our minds to making others believe in the very grounds we argue on is not because we do not have the facts or information but because it is on very rare occasion if any that we put our entire minds on a particular subject of discussion.There are issues we lose even from our own ideologies deep inside even before it comes out.

   #  Never think of what to say next while the other person is speaking.

In a discussion we always focus on what next to say after the other person is done talking to keep us ahead of them,in our mind we make it seem like a battle in which we must win which is never the case at all.for instance after we have given forth our point of argument we hurriedly think of what to say next to say to put the other person on the receiving end.

  #  Never aim at having the last word.

 The perception of 'He that laughs last.....' Should not be a consideration in a discussion.The key objective should be to gather all other than what you may have thought yourself to know on the subject.

  #  Try putting your thought on the other side.

 Having information from a particular standpoint makes you more of a bore in a discussion as it may have you perceived to argue just for the sake of it.seeing things from more than one angle exposes you to much knowledge than you may have initially thought,you get to know the weaknesses of both sides and the strength too.

  #  Forget about yourself and image amid discussion. 

 In a discussion we become like a character in a play,in this case there is never anything to be worried about as you come out yourself latter with nothing  to lose but grounds to defend.

  #  Don't always be rigid to the reality.

  The reality is the most significant gap and the final hurdle that bridges the problem with the resolution.In a discussion or a healthy understanding between two sides or aspects of a certain subject one should not go beyond the actual human realm of things as we all want to have if not the tangible then something that we can attribute to.

  In a discussion or a healthy understanding between two sides or aspects of a certain subject,what counts is what we come out with about our point of argument that you didn't know.all that makes all the points seem just right and ones that can't be dismissed.    

  

The Education and Personality: THE EDUCATION SYSTEMOnce the word hits ones mind...

The Education and Personality: THE EDUCATION SYSTEM

Once the word hits ones mind...: THE EDUCATION SYSTEM Once the word hits ones mind the very first thing one gets is book,and for sure you are right,over time we are mean...

BEING UNIQUE YET YOURSELF

Every human of this time would want to be associated with something to call theirs,one that can be traced back to them,we all want to be the trend setters in every aspect of our day-to-day activities.its more like an ego but a positive one at that.

We would want to be noticed with that which makes us stand out;in discussions,dressing,at our job,our neighbourhood and even with our family members.we are unique in every of what we do yet we try hard enough not to let it out because we think its abnormal ,weird,awkward or it would push us away from where we think is the right place.one thing we never realise is that the awkward,weird things are what identifies us,they are what cannot be changed about us.They are what no other person can be or even copy,we want to always agree with what others say,at times is because we always want to keep the conversation going or prevent changing what others perceive us.

In realizing the uniqueness in in us,it doesn't have to be as difficult as it seem of as it would be made to be like,it is very easy to tell if someone is actuality themself or trying to be someone else so as to fit to the particular environment the find themselves in.

   1.They would easily pick up all that is happening 'beyond' them,dressing,talking and almost virtually everything be it the newspaper,on tv and all that almost everyone is talking about.In being yourself you have to be realistic in what you do so that it is something that attributes to your doing.

  2.The ease with which they would switch and support statements that puts them with the majority,most of those who fake such personalities fear losing.they always want to be on the winning side and with that they can easily switch statements to at least console their unidentified  place.

  3.Most of what some of such personalities would do is mostly for the sake of it,at times it happens because once it begins the rest has to happen just to protect the first interest or mentain the already begun lifestyle.The best way to do anything is to have realistic grounds on which what you do is based,all to know its you in control.

   4.Knowing that what you stand for is the right thing then you never have anything to prove to anyone,that is always a philosophy of a real identity,if at a particular time it seems difficult to express who you are then know that you have to reinvent your identity.

 Going or flowing with the trend is an issue but may be a personal as each one would defend their statements.The reality is that it kills the realistic and unable presently confront the issue head on.knowing that you are right even when you can't prove it to those who don't believe you for they wouldn't even understand you.unique persons rarely take sides in fact they provide a totally different picture of things.

NURTURING CREATIVITY.

 The 21st century has a lot of the obvious to get rid of,everything has been done in the so normal and obvious way that duplication has become the order of the day till we all wish for something different,one that no one is willing to give.

       From the dressing to the music to the lifestyle and so on,all this has been depicted even in the personalities that our children pick up and it later comes to define them,doing all that they see exposing them to very little if any creativity at all.This gives us a whole generation full of one particular definition without the new and creative versatility that comes with new minds.

      Creativity can not be generated within a mind but it can be revitalized if noted at the right time,note that it is a very valuable thing you would not want your child missing out on.if approached with the parents dominance and superiority aspect then everything is lost since it appear like pressure and superior-inferior address in which the child always knows that s/he has already lost.It requires a friendly environment,one that neither you nor the child seem to be giving more than what the other is contributing.here are a few steps to making your child grow in their free God-given creativity and not grow within the confines of what the society shoulders on him.

1.Always create an atmosphere that is suitable for the child to feel free 

   enough to express his or her other side without feeling demeaned or 

   degraded.

2.Give the child a chance to see your other side which may be what you 

    can do other than what he/she knows you for,this challenges them 

    to explore deeper within them.

3.Always give time and space to  make the child feel that whatever they 

   do has space within the environment that they are as it builds them 

   even more,but if the opposite happens they feel that they are weird and

   not part of the rest of the others.

4.Always be realistic with whatever it is you try getting your child to be

   creative about so that it doesn't seem like you being much of a pressure 

   than the help that you actually are.

5.Try exposing your child to as many avenues as possible to know which 

    specific one he/she takes interest in so that you give the much needed 

    Support.

6.Always support what comes out even when it's not what you expected,

   this happens because its out of what they get from the outside that they 

   give back as response.

7.Never be persistent on a particular thing or activity since even if that is 

   what you saw then the child loses interest so early that in the end he 

   Doesn't recognise himself anymore,it turn out to be a " daddy/mummy's 

    Idea.

Rules or principles that would govern your path to your goal

I BELIEVE IN MYSELF

I am proud of who i am,

I am who i really am and perceive myself as a dream that someone else is wishing for thats why i don't take chances.

I am my own inspiration and i build a personality that  i want to be associated with and not a character i admire or one i think people want to see in me.

I do not allow the situation that i am define who I am or my future.

I aim at earning the respect that i deserve and not wish for that which another person already has earned for himself for its all out of what he does and so should i out of what i do.

Although there is a second chance,it never comes as it did in the first instance,once i have the opportunity to do what I am known for then i give it my all.

I never do anything thinking that there is luck,for it is only a consolation word for those who do not believe in themselves and the power in them.i do what I do because i believe in myself.

I Never aim at a goal because of any gain because it will disappoint me in the end,i do whatever i do for the satisfaction and fulfillment that it gives me. 

Although i am human and humans are prone to mistakes,i won't allow that be the excuse for any failure on my part.

In succeeding;if i did all that i could and gave it my all when it was my turn,then the outcome is a success for me no matter how anyone defines it.

There are expectation from every other person in regard to what i do but In the end its what i aim at achieving as an individual that counts,theirs remain theirs.

It is my supreme art as a teacher to awaken joy in creative expression and knowledge in all that go through my hands.

I don't want you to ask yourself if you can trust me,ask yourself why you shouldn't trust me.

I am proud of who i became and i know i have a legacy in a heart out there.i don't wish or regret.

                                                        By   MELEX MWINAMI SAMWEL .

How to overcome 'your' unreal personality

OVERCOMING A FAKE IDENTITY

Given that as we all grow up we learn from those around us and would want to be like them or do what would make us be associated with them,in other words we want to build their character in us. Individually we are endowed differently in the ay we react to negative perceptions of us,the happy times in our lives and all that is easily read from the outside I the context of what we give out.

    Be it as employees,employers,students and all the other awesome people around us,we always have those people we look at and see everything to do with perfection.one thing we realise years after is that we have locked our real person within us,we want to make people like us and so we go beyond the realistic,we want people to see the 'other popular' us,the character that people loves and want to please everyone even when that is the least they want from us,we are focused on telling people what they want to hear,what they know and expect to hear from us and so we lock our real self within us because we think speaking our mind may spoil our friendship or keep us away from these people.

   In having to change from what people know of us to who we really are and the true person in us,it may not be as easy as it may seem,you need to understand that there are setbacks which does not mean its impossible,there are thing you need to take to account and it will be more like a switch.

1.Understand that you are living in a character that may have grown to a

   Personality which is not of the real you but like an adopted one which  

    Can not be totally erased but may be managed with time.

2.Know that although you have made a decision to be your real self it is 

   One thing to decide and yet another to actually overcome it.

3.There may be time when you will find yourself almost build to the 

    Character you are have been known for since it may be assumed that 

   Since you are into a new character it may be a faked one.

4.Be realistic in drawing your real identity for it might be just another 

   Character you are tempted to pick up thinking its who you are.

5.Always try associating yourself with what gives you fulfillment other than     

   what people like for that would depict the real you. 

6.Try letting lose of the things that you do to please other people and 

   Focus on what defines you.

 

THE EDUCATION SYSTEM

Once the word hits ones mind the very first thing one gets is book,and for sure you are right,over time we are meant to believe; not by our teachers or those who pass the information to us but by the system,that one whoever can not do that which is a universal perspective in the name of education is foolish.lets think again,Dr Einstein once said,"always believe in who you are as everybody is a genius but if you judge a fish by the ability to climb a tree or to fly it will live the rest of its life believing its foolish.this is what we have implanted in our young Kenyans,the truth is that there is more to a good thong other than just satisfying everyone.

Other than the universal academic knowledge we so much value,each of us has a hidden gift in them,one that unless there is enough space for it to come out (by space i mean unless it is something that every other person accepts and one that does't make you seem like some weirdo) then it might as well remain in there for as long as forever.its like the most valuable treasures of our beautiful planet,they are so valuable yet so rare,unless they are given time they may never be found,they may be hidden for years,decades,centuries and like forever.

      It has even become more serious because we teach and force our children through a system we don't  even believe in,we want to use our children to satisfy our 'selfish' interests,you want to have your child go through what you tried and failed,to use a softer word,we want to give our children more than a thousand reasons why they have to do what we want them to do rather than what even you as a parent or guardian know is the right thing.

Lets begin from a simple area,other than the big money and a big name what reasons drives a parent to pushing their children to particular carrier path?.lets not deviate much from the main objective for which this article it to be written.The Kenyan system I would say is one of the best that has ever been,only that it has not been effected as should for any system on this planet.By this i mean by the time a student is out of high school s/he is well versed with what the world has to offer and is well prepared.

 With over thousands of career lines out there our children can easily and most effortlessly fit into whichever system they are put to as long as its what drives their spirit to fulfillment. We are all the product of the same education system that produced the great movers of our country and the big names coming up to flag our country on this peaceful continent.the professors,inventors and all that makes each of us who we are.what makes the whole system what it is is the individual outcome of it,Those that have shone to the moon know the value and would rather keep it to themselves while hose to whom fate has not been that good of a neighbor then the education system is wrong.

    Each education system in the world is suitable for those it serves.how often do we take time to look deep down in us weather we are we doing that which we are meant to or is it what everyone expects us to do that we focus so much on?,very few people have taken the big risk of unmasking their real personalities.87% of the current world is doing what they are doing to continue surviving since its what the C.V says and where the academic journey has landed them.the other 13% are the artists,farmers,some musicians,mentors and authors.

      Almost everything has been commercialized and professionalized until one never knows whether they are doing what pleases them or they are switching careers,i would say;after the awesome system has equipped you enough, go out there and do what gives you satisfaction and all the fulfillment,what makes you feel that you have exhaustively put a mark where no other person dared to.